Hello and welcome to the second instalment of my Blöm Cards Monday’s series. If you missed my introduction post explaining Blöm Cards and the goal of the series you can read it here. Today I will be sharing my experience with the “Don’t Fear Tears” Card.
Don’t Fear Tears
Often we push sadness away and distract ourselves. We fear our tears, believing that we should be strong. In fact, emotional tears realise feel good endorphins. Crying is also essential in the processing of grief. Heal through tears
When I first sat down to write this. I thought that it would be straight forward and fairly easy to write about. That was until I tried putting the thoughts on to paper, so to speak.
When I was younger I was really sensitive and cried at almost anything. I remember that I would well up at the silliest things, a passing comment could have me hiding in the bathroom until I had calmed down. I’ve cried at sad storylines, adverts and news stories. I was even that embarrassing drunk girl who would be sitting in the corner sobbing. Alcohol seemed to emphasis my feelings and make me a walking, talking blubbing fool. I began to try and hide my emotions as I didn’t want to appear as vulnerable or weak.
To stop myself from appear weak and vulnerable I’ve began bottling up my feelings more than ever. Keeping everything inside, letting them fester until I burst like a volcano spewing lava everywhere. I think that’s why it was harder than I thought to do this post.
After a lot of contemplation I’ve realised that keeping my feelings bottled up isn’t good, not only for me but for my loved ones. I’m going to try and express my feelings more and when I’m upset I’m not going to get scared and bottle them up I’m going to let the flow.
Ultimately crying doesn’t make you weak. It can be therapeutic. We all need a good cry every now and then.